Stability

Sometimes I say or type something before fully realizing how I feel. Today I told a friend how I am ready to remarry and want stability. Part of this is because of the recent events that have shifted my life off it's axis. The other part is because I am a serial monogamous. I put a lot into my relationships. It is frustrating to try to reduce this in the dating world. Even more frustrating to see how hard it is to just have a regular boyfriend - girlfriend relationship now a days.

I have been doing so soul searching. Trying to decide how to deal with a fellow I like. Not sure how long I am willing to casually date him. I have known him 5 months. The last month or so the relationship has gotten more serious but he has not had the classic exclusive conversation. Which frustrates me because men try to have this with me on a second date! Meanwhile I have mentioned how he has not done this, in not so direct words, and still nothing. To me that means you do not want me in that way. So I can move on. I think I will give it a few more weeks and then lay it all out there. 

The guy from several blogs and months ago tried to make a reappearance. Not sure how I feel about it though. I like him, probably too much. But there are several things about his life that bother me. On top of the distance with us living in different states. I think I will just keep an eye on that situation. He will have to make the moves on that one.

I am trying hard to be patient but is hard when several sections of your life have "under construction" signs up! 

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