Spring Cleaning

I recently used some free time to clean out my email inbox. 6 years of communications that I felt were important enough to keep or overlook...
I noticed a few things while reading old chats, emails, and pictures.... 
1) Some of my friendships have changed over the years. That makes me sad in a way but happy in others. I am happy to have a close group of female friends for years.
2) Seeing emails and conversations with exes was interesting. I totally know they were life lessons but really wonder how much have I learned from them.
 I was in an unhealthy relationship situation for 2 years. Looking over the communications and BBM conversations... I see now he didn't "get me" and probably was verbally abusive. For a while I felt bad about how I mentally checked out of that relationship and gave up on it. Now I see it was an accumulation of all the crap.
3) Finally, I notice how much I missed my daughter when she was in Boston and how much she missed me. But also how her father changed during that time. I miss him. And it still hurts to think of the evolution that caused him to make that final decision.

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