Happiness & Love

I recently used some free time to clean out my email inbox. 6 years of communications that I felt were important enough to keep or overlook... I noticed a few things while reading old chats, emails, and pictures....  1) Some of my friendships have changed over the years. That makes me sad in a way but happy in others. I am happy to have a close group of female friends for years. 2) Seeing emails and conversations with exes was interesting. I totally know they were life lessons but really wonder how much have I learned from them.  I was in an unhealthy relationship situation for 2 years. Looking over the communications and BBM conversations... I see now he didn't "get me" and probably was verbally abusive. For a while I felt bad about how I mentally checked out of that relationship and gave up on it. Now I see it was an accumulation of all the crap. 3) Finally, I notice how much I missed my daughter when she was in Boston and how much she missed me. But also how

The smallest things mean a lot to me.  It is not hard to make me happy.  People often think I'm just saying that because it's what folks say, but I mean it.  The same way small things can make me happy, they can make me upset.I have new dating pet peeves as a result.  #1  Do not disappoint me If you say you are going to do something do it.  It's pretty simple.  Words mean nothing without the action behind it!  Example of this.  If you say we are going on a date.  Have a plan.  Do not cancel over some bull either!  I will look at you like you're the bull you spoke. #2  Do not do things at the last minute This is connected to #1.  Canceling or changing plans at the last minute bothers me!  I understand when it's an emergency, but when you just bs'ing then you need to get the hell on! #3  Do not contact me everyday In the early stages of dating (first few weeks) do not call, text or instant message me everyday.  This will quickly be ignore

Whoever is for you... won't leave you.  Understand the difference between God ordained relationships vs. seasonal acquaintances.  Don't confuse the two.

Recently Jada Pinkett Smith has been in the news for her comments on her marriage to Will Smith. She stated he could do whatever he wants and critics took it to mean they have a open marriage. She recently wrote something on her Facebook page explaining her comments. I feel it say SO much about real marriages and relationships. Open marriage? Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing. The statement I made in regard to, "Will can do whatever he wants," has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist. Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should "behave"? Do we believe that all the expecta

Actions always speak louder than words Show me what I mean to you Show me how much you care Show me that I am special Show me that you want me Show me I am important to you Show me you want me in your life Show me I am appreciated Show me how much you want me Show me that I am loved by you

This is an age old question. We all love LOVE! Love of all forms. Parent, sibling, children, friends, and of course mate. Regardless of how times those people who love us disappoint, hurt, or even betray us we still love them in some way. Now we may chose to deal with them differently but we still love them. I was thinking about this whole loving Love thing and wondered what keeps people seeking it. Especially romantic love. For most people by a certain age in adulthood, they have been hurt by love. Yet, the average person still believe in and pursue it. But why? The wonderful feeling of being loved? The feeling giving love gives you? The feeling of being in loved? Or is it the combination of all the things that equal being in love? The companionship, warm feelings, happiness, and love all in one bucket? In all my years of relationships, successful and unsuccessful, I have never given up on love. I have heard friends of mine say they have, but still are open to it. Still willin

In a relationship, what is the different between compromising and settling? This is a topic I have discussed many times with friends. It is interesting to hear people's opinions on it. I personally believe a person's opinion on this topic depends on where they are in life and romantic relationships. Webster Dictionary defines compromising as: to come come to agreement by mutual concession. Webster Dictionary defines settle as: to sink gradually. Another definition is to arrange in a desired position. To settle for means - to be content with. Compromising appears to be better than settling. Each party involved makes a concession of some type. Most relationships are this way. We give up something to be a part of them. We get a something though. I believe that this is normal. Compromising is something needed in most aspects of life, not just romantic relationships. Settling appears to be less than compromising. Settling is taking less than you want and not getting as muc